Several friends have approached me with questions about what to look for in a spouse. My husband and I came up with a list of questions to ask yourself when getting to know someone. Please add more to the list.
Do they give you the space and support to be the person you are supposed to be not the person they want you to be?
Are they kind?
Do they create unity around them (what is their relationship with friends and family)?
Do they bring out the best in you?
Do you communicate well together?
What are the things about them that annoy you or you don’t like and can you live with those?
What are the spiritual qualities you see in them?
Do they put their faith at the centre of their lives?
Are they in a learning mode and are they trying to overcome their challenges?
How do they deal with challenges?
What is their attitude towards life? Are they optimistic, positive thinkers?
Do they see stumbling blocks or do they see stepping stones? Do they see the problem or do they see the opportunity?
Do they bring you peace of mind?
I would love to hear your thoughts and if you have more ideas of what to look for please post them below.